Category: Relationships
As the adage goes, resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die. The escape hatch is forgiveness — of self and others. Never easy. But always worth it.
Significant insight into how she was filtering out much of what men said based on some personal, hurtful experiences from a few.
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“We have to stop expecting to be offended, and instead, we have to truly, openly and sincerely listening. That will lead to a greater understanding of ourselves and others, to having compassion for one another, working together towards solutions, because we are all in this together. And once we do that we can finally heal from the inside out. But it has to start with listening.”
– Cassie Jaye – ‘Red Pill’ filmmaker
Transcribed by Jeff Fenske
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3LqbqUMXinQ
Cassie Jaye: Why I Stopped Being a Feminist
In 2016 Cassie Jayes made a documentary called “The Red Pill” where she explores mens rights issues and the movement behind it, which is absolutely worth seeing: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt3686998/
Full video quoted under fair use: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBSbs…
This channel aims at extracting central points of presentations into short clips. The topics cover the problems of leftist ideology and the consequences for society. The aim is to move free speech advocates forward and fight against the culture of SJWs.
Po: Grasshopper, do you find mystery in the fire?
KCC: My thoughts are of a girl I saw in the marketplace. She as very pretty. She sought my friendship. And then when she had it, she did not want it. Master, why can the female not be direct and open as the man can?
Po: Is it not better that the female act as a female?
KCC: She seeks only to confuse. The truth is not within her.
Po: Perhaps you only fail to perceive it.
KCC: I do not know that I wish to perceive it
Po: (Pointing to a coal fire) What is it that makes the heat? The coal or the flame?
KCC: The coal. The heat is within the coal.
Po: What if the coal is not touched be the flame?
KCC: The heat is not felt.
Po: Are not male and female, coal and flame? If the coal does not seek to know the flame, can either fulfill their destiny?
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Kung Fu: Master Po Helps Caine Understand Women
Related:
All of my Kung Fu – No Hate ’70s Series posts at my personal blog
Interesting article, and very interesting subject; though, I can’t agree with it all. I’m going to get a little spiritual here.
The most important aspect regarding this subject may be marrying the right person. A prophet once told me: “if a man marries a strong-willed woman, the man must be stronger willed.” I see this as incredibly wise.
I really do like what Suzanne says here.
“In essence, being feminine means being nice. It means being soft instead of hard. And by “nice,” I don’t mean you should become a mouse. (That’s the narrative the culture sells, but that doesn’t make it true.) Men love women who are fun and feisty and who know their own mind!”
Women who lose their femininity and become hard is tragic. They cut their hair short, and watch out! To see women who are still feminine is so wonderful to see — who refuse to let hating-others demons affect them!
Even most pastors no longer talk about demons, but they’re a huge factor! Unforgiveness and hate is rampant. Because people have smart phones doesn’t mean people no longer have demons: Can a Christian Have a Demon? Absolutely! Most Have Many!
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From: The Telegraph
Men and women have distinct personalities
Men and women really do have fundamentally different characteristics, according to a study which has confirmed many longheld gender sterotypes.
05 Jan 2012
A new analysis of a survey of 10,000 people found that each sex has firmly entrenched characteristics, with women showing more sensitivity, warmth and apprehension than men.
In contrast, emotional stability, dominance, rule-consciousness and vigilance are more typically male characteristics, experts said. …
But the new analysis published in the Public Library of Science One journal revealed that each sex shares a distinct set of characteristics, with just 18 per cent of men having a typically “female” set of traits or vice versa.
Past studies have shown that men and women average similar scores on the 16PF5 – a well-known and frequently used measure of personality. …
The study showed that because men scored higher in some areas and women in others the differences between the sexes cancelled each other out when viewed as a simple average, but made for a significant gulf when added together. …
The study could explain why certain professions, such as engineering, are dominated by a particular sex in spite of efforts by governments to promote equality, Dr Paul Irwing, of Manchester Business School, who co-authored the paper, said. …
Dr Marco Del Giudice, who led the study, said: … “The idea that there are only minor differences between the personality profiles of males and females should be rejected as based on inadequate methodology.”
Related:
Jordan Peterson: Men are more interested in things; women more interested in people
(video) Feminism Was Created To Destabilize Society, Tax Women and Set Up the NWO – Aaron Russo
“The greatest thing a man can do to a woman is to lead her closer to God than to himself”
The Purpose of Feminism articles at ToBeFree (10 posts per page, latest appear first)
“This is the first study, to the best of my knowledge, which actually takes into account structural differences.”
“We found that the men had front-back conductivity, but they were on both sides of the brain. … And women had higher left-right conductivity on average.”
“Women also showed that many of their networks were engaged together, in terms of they participated in various networks of the brain at the same time. Men participated intensely within a single network. So if multitasking verses doing one single concentrated task better.”
– Ragina Verma, senior author of the study
Men and women are complementary, not the same, as we’re supposed to believe. We’re created differently to excel in our different giftings.
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“Diffuse means to pour in every direction. As a man, you are what we call ‘single focused.’ … You pay attention to one result at a time, ‘single focus.’ We have ‘diffuse awareness.’Most men will interpret that: ‘oh, so you pay attention to three or four things at a time.’ No. ‘Oh, you focus on two or three things at a time.’ No, it means we don’t focus. [laughter]
We don’t focus. It doesn’t mean we can’t focus. Because we can, for short periods of time. And it’s like: do you know how much energy it takes to get the shuttle free from the force of gravity. All the fuel is burned up getting it free…. That’s what it takes for us to focus.
I’ll sit down to write something which requires focus, and….”
– Alison Armstrong
Transcribed by Jeff Fenske, a focuser
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=emcG3sZqJpo
“Men…are good with problem solving, mechanical issues, and you’re very logical about things.”
“The right hemisphere [in the female brain], the creative side adds emotion to what we’re processing.”
– Shari Alexander (Transcribed by me)
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From: Henry Makow
Psychiatrist Explains How Feminism Causes Frigidity
July 25, 2015
Dr Marie N. Robinson’s revealing study of the feminine psyche explains how the Illuminati
have neutered women and eroded our heterosexuality. The aim is to induct society
into their satanic cult and to impose a veiled Communist police state.
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“The foundation of the Christian family is the sacrament of matrimony, the spring of all domestic and public morals. The anti-Christian societies [i.e. Illuminati] are opposed to the principle of home. When they have destroyed the hearth, the morality of society will perish.” Benjamin Disraeli (Lothair, 1870)
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(Revised from Sept. 2009)
by Henry Makow Ph.D.
Marie N. Robinson MD, a Cornell educated psychiatrist devoted her New York City practice to the treatment of frigidity. Her book, The Power of Sexual Surrender (1958) online here, is a revealing study of the feminine psyche. It is out-of-print. Why? It is politically incorrect.
Dr. Robinson says that millions of American women suffer from frigidity. While she explores many different causes, she notes that frigid women universally adopt the feminist view. This view, that a career as a wife and mother is demeaning and men exploit woman, creates an “emotional logjam” which obstructs sexual response and psychological development.
Dr. Robinson writes that a woman’s identity lies in an “essential feminine altruism.” Her self-expression and power are based on making her husband and children her first priority. Similarly, her sexual satisfaction and spiritual fecundity depend on self-surrender.
GENDER DIFFERENCES
Robinson says men and women are different by nature. Men are designed for mastery of the external (physical) world, and women for mastery of the internal (spiritual) world and the home. These are not social stereotypes, as feminists argue.
“Women are designed for duties different from those of the marketplace, another kind of stress entirely,” writes Robinson. They “tend to lose their essential womanliness if they stay [in the marketplace] by choice.” (149)
According to Robinson, “the feminist credo thoroughly discredited feminine needs and characteristics and substituted male goals for female goals.”(53)
“The depreciation of the goals of femininity, biological and psychological, became part and parcel of the education of millions of American girls. Homemaking, childbearing and rearing, cooking, the virtues of patience, lovingness, giving ness in marriage, have been systematically devalued. The life of male achievement has been substituted for the life of female achievement.” (55)
FEMININE DEVALUATION AND SELF-HATRED
Robinson writes that “to millions of women, hostility towards the opposite sex seems almost a natural law. Although modern women may pay lip service to the ideal of a passionate and productive marriage to a man, underneath she deeply resents her role, conceives of the male as fundamentally hostile to her, as an exploiter of her. She wishes in her deepest heart, and often without the slightest awareness of the fact, to supplant him, to exchange roles with him.” (emphasis mine 56)
Robinson says that if feminism had brought women happiness, the game might have been worth it.
“But it hasn’t been. The game has brought frigidity and restlessness and a soaring divorce rate, neurosis, homosexuality, juvenile delinquency all that results when a woman in any society deserts her true function.” (56)
Dr. Robinson writes that once the emotional “log jam” is removed, a woman’s natural instincts will flow and health will be restored. Essentially this involves “allowing herself to trust her husband in a very deep sense. It means that she finally realizes that she no longer has to fear or oppose his strength, but that she can rely on it to protect her, to give her the secure climate necessary for the full flowering of her femininity.” (153)
For a profound vaginal orgasm, Robinson writes, “the excitement comes from the act of surrender. There is a tremendous surging physical ecstasy in the yielding itself, in the feeling of being the passive instrument of another person…” (158)
On the other hand, the woman who mistrusts her husband’s love and, as a consequence, her own femininity has a “difficult, painful, frenetic” approach to life. She is at war with herself. In bed, she has to feel “in control all the time.”
Dr. Robinson says there is nothing in life more important than love. She believes marriage is the key to human development. The power of love is felt in the world through this relationship.
“Love means, in its very deepest sense union; union between individuals…It is the most basic and profound urge we have and its power for good is illimitable… the lover partner becomes as important as oneself…This fact is why real love never leads to domination or to a struggle for power…” (129)
CONCLUSION
The significance of The Power of Sexual Surrender is profound.
By coercing women to abandon their femininity and usurp the male role, feminism throws a spanner in the natural heterosexual mechanism of humanity. Women have been deprived of their natural biological and social role and condemned to loneliness and frustration. Similarly, men are deprived of the role of protector and provider essential to their development and fulfillment.
The triumph of such a wrongheaded ideology, and the suppression of the truth, signifies that control in the world has passed to a malignant force.
Robinson confirms my view that heterosexual union is based on an exchange of female power for male power expressed as love. A woman who seeks power is neutering herself and her husband. She will not receive love from a man whose identity is based on power. She cannot love someone she competes with. He cannot love her. This is the dilemma of feminists today.
As Marie N. Robinson confirms, woman loves by entrusting her power to the right man, her husband. He uses it to champion her interests. Thus she both empowers him and channels male power in a socially constructive direction. A woman’s real power is love, the power of self surrender.
Related:
Scientists: WOMEN better at MULTI-TASKING, MEN better at CONCENTRATING on SINGLE Complex TASKS; Women have better connections between the LEFT & RIGHT sides of the brain • Men have better connections between the FRONT & BACK — ‘COMPLEMENTARY’ PROVEN!
Study: The hardwired ‘stark’ difference between male and female brains explains why women are more intuitive — “It’s quite striking how COMPLEMENTARY the brains of women and men really are.” | God knew what He was doing : )
Adrian Rogers on MEN and WOMEN: Celebrate the Difference — “God made us different that He might make us ONE.” It’s time to stop trying to be the be the same or resenting each other because of our differences.
(video) David Pawson: “Leadership is Male” (in the home and in the church) — “The demand for IDENTITY between the sexes has caused so many problems. … I’ve found that every woman, deep down in their heart, want to see their men-folk taking responsible leadership”
Satanists used “sexual liberation,” to undermine humanity: “we corrupt in order to conquer” — For a woman, sex is an act of self-sacrifice and surrender. By definition, it requires trust, i.e. love and devotion to one man. When she has casual sex, inevitably she is disappointed and feels used. She starts to hate men and falls victim to feminism and lesbianism
How The Rockefellers Re-Engineered Women — The hidden goal of feminism is to destroy the family, which interferes with state brainwashing of the young
(video) Feminism Was Created To Destabilize Society, Tax Women and Set Up the NWO – Aaron Russo
“The greatest thing a man can do to a woman is to lead her closer to God than to himself”
All of my The Purpose of Feminism articles at ToBeFree (10 posts per page, latest appear first)
From: Daily Mail
The picture that reveals why men and women’s brains really ARE different: The connections that mean girls are made for multi-tasking
2 December 2013
Scientists have found that the female brain is ‘hard-wired’ to be better at multitasking.
Men’s brains, in comparison, are better at concentrating on single complex tasks – whether it be reading a map or cooking a meal.
Scientists found women are better at multi-tasking but men are better at concentrating on a single task after they scanned the brains of 949 people (men’s brains, top, and women’s brains, bottom). Undated handout photo issued by National Academy of Sciences of brain networks showing significantly increased within hemispheres in males (upper) and between hemispheres in females (lower)
Scientists scanned the brains of 949 young men and women in the biggest investigation of its kind to date. Using hi-tech diffusion MRI imaging, they mapped the connections between the different parts of the brains.
The researchers discovered that women have far better connections between the left and right sides of the brain, while men display more intense activity within the brain’s individual parts, especially in the cerebellum, which controls motor skills.
Men also have better connections between the front and back of the brain, giving them a better ability to quickly perceive information and use it immediately to carry out complex tasks.
This means they are better at things such as learning to swim or, as the old bone of contention has it, parking a car. Women are better at, for example, remembering a face, which means making connections between different parts of the brain.
The results are likely to be seen as supporting the theory behind best-selling pop psychology book Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus – that the sexes are as different as alien races.
I hope the somewhat strong language here doesn’t turn anyone off. This is actually very good!
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Power to the peaceful!
jeff : )
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From: Henry Makow
God Vs the Mini Skirt
November 3, 2011
“After I have been with her for a while, I realize she is nothing like the girl I initially worshiped. That girl doesn’t exist. And you have given the love and adoration that your Creator, the Creator of the entire universe deserves to another human being. And in the process you have gone from a powerful man to a weak child before this woman that wants to admire your strength.”
by Pieter Prinsloo
(henrymakow.com)
Pieter Prinsloo is a 22 year old student in South Africa. He is “dedicated to kneeling to God and standing up to the cockroaches too cowardly to give their organization a name but think they have the right to rule us all.”
Women are worshiped and feared by men in modern Western society. The female is “empowered” and sexualized; they are goddesses, thanks to brainwashing by the Illuminati whore media. Go into any nightclub and see how attractive girls are treated with worship and crippling fear.
Have you ever seen a stunning girl from a distance…?
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You see, no matter how impressive, centered, beautiful, courageous, strong somebody is, we are just pale reflections of our God. The Illuminati wants us to believe that they are gods and we can become gods also. This always ends in disappointment.
Trying to love another human as a god robs them of the love they need from you, the amazing love and friendship of two humans who share a life together.
Girls, do not come to me thinking that I am the “one” for you.
I will not expect you to be the “one” either. I have already found the ULTIMATE ONE. But you can be my number two.
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I was looking for the Vera Farmiga interview and found this.
Very interesting discoveries!
She still hasn’t fully found what she’s looking for, though.
“We need to go all the way to be free!” See the link, below.
Real Christianity is holiness.
jeff
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Reducing Regrets
at age…!!
“I was brought up an atheist”
“You can’t heal until you can forgive.”
– Jane Fonda
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Related:
To be free we need to be totally right. From my spiritual site, ONEcanhappen:
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From: katherinealbrecht.com…
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Hour 2 ( Download the MP3 )
Gender Differences // Marriage //
Males and females communicate differently as shown by being able to tell your gender on Twitter. Katherine covers this issue in the 12 Biggest Lies DVC. So what do men and women want in a marriage? Men to be honored, women to be loved and cherished. A counselor recommended that men read The Exemplary Husband and women The Excellent Wife to provide a stronger marriage, particularly important in these troubling times and Katherine believes it is well worth it.
Researchers can tell your gender on Twitter
Katherine in the 12 Biggest Lies DVD talking about gender differences
Katherine’s Show with Eric Bibb (hour 2)
The Exemplary Husband (Amazon)
The New Economics of Marriage: The Rise of Wives
Related:
Some ‘marriages’ can’t work because they’re not really marriages in God’s eyes:
Clarifying my perspective on divorce and marriage: The role of the Holy Spirit
All of my The Purpose of Feminism articles in reverse chronological order
From: LouannBrizendine.com
THE MALE BRAIN
From the author of the groundbreaking New York Times bestseller The Female Brain, is the eagerly awaited powerful book that demystifies the puzzling male brain.
Join Dr. Louann Brizendine as she turns her attention to the male brain, showing how, through every phase of life, the ³male reality² is fundamentally different from the female one. Exploring the latest breakthroughs in male psychology and neurology with her trademark accessibility and candor, she reveals that the male brain:
is a lean, mean, problem-solving machine. Faced with a personal problem, a man will use his analytical brain structures, not his emotional ones, to find a solution. …
From: Associated Content
Is there a War of the Sexes or is it just a Great Divide? A professor of clinical psychiatry has found that male brains and female brains are simply wired differently.
Men are often baffled that women are “too emotional” and women get frustrated by men not being “emotional enough”.
Dr Louann Brizendine, carries out clinical work and research as a neuropsychiatrist and professor of clinical psychiatry. …
For decades, a mainstream school of though has argued that psychological and emotional differences between men and women are socially constructed. …
Our brains have two emotional systems that work in tandem. The first – ‘System’ or ‘MNS’ – enables us to empathise with others. The second, the ‘Parietal Junction System’ or TPJ triggers the brain’s problem-solving circuits to find solutions for emotional problems. This is cognitive empathy.
Unsurprisingly to those who have spent their lives on Planet Earth, males brains use TPJ more than MNS. The advantage of TPJ is that their thought processes are less clouded by emotion which strengthens their ability to find practical solutions to problems. Although this can make men appear uncaring sometimes they may simply be figuring out a problem in the way their brain directs them to. A man’s way of showing he cares about a woman will often be to try and solve a problem for her or do something practical for her.
[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=whg9p65hOEM]Why Tiger Cheated: “Mars Venus” Author Explains
Question: “Why did Tiger Woods cheat on his beautiful wife?”
Featuring Dr. John Gray
Author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus
http://www.marsvenusliving.com
[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UhSTHhyUMYE]John Gray – Do Men and Women Deal with Stress Differently?
Complete video at: http://fora.tv/2008/02/11/John_Gray_W…
John Gray, bestselling author of “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus,” argues that differences between men’s and women’s brains lead women to cope with stress differently than men.
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John Gray talks about Why Mars and Venus Collide.
The author who raised many provocative questions about male-female relations with his book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, returns to familiar territory. He suggests ideas to help couples cope with everyday stress and keep their love strong – Book Passage
John Gray, Ph.D., is an internationally recognized expert in the fields of communication and relationships. The author of fifteen books, he has been conducting personal-growth seminars for more than thirty years and writes “Mars Venus Advice,” a weekly syndicated column that has appeared in more than one hundred media outlets, including Newsday, the Los Angeles Times, and the Detroit Free Press.
He also has a weekly Internet broadcast with over two million listeners at Marsvenus.com. Gray has been a contributing editor at Redbook and a contributor to ivillage.com, Brides, and Divorce magazines. He lives with his wife and three children in Northern California.
[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GOZ1uzypZw0]John Gray – Are Men Poor Listeners?
Complete video at: http://fora.tv/2008/02/11/John_Gray_W…
John Gray, bestselling author of “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus,” argues that differences between men’s and women’s brains lead to men being viewed as poor listeners.
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John Gray talks about Why Mars and Venus Collide.
The author who raised many provocative questions about male-female relations with his book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, returns to familiar territory. He suggests ideas to help couples cope with everyday stress and keep their love strong – Book Passage
John Gray, Ph.D., is an internationally recognized expert in the fields of communication and relationships. The author of fifteen books, he has been conducting personal-growth seminars for more than thirty years and writes “Mars Venus Advice,” a weekly syndicated column that has appeared in more than one hundred media outlets, including Newsday, the Los Angeles Times, and the Detroit Free Press.
He also has a weekly Internet broadcast with over two million listeners at Marsvenus.com. Gray has been a contributing editor at Redbook and a contributor to ivillage.com, Brides, and Divorce magazines. He lives with his wife and three children in Northern California.
[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dc48mxPIyHc]Mars Venus SuperFood Shakes
MarsVenusLiving — November 04, 2009 — Hormone and mineral depletion because of stress and aging makes happens in both men and women. For men in need of more oxytocin, and women in need of more serotonin, will find these Mars Venus powdered shake products, developed by bestselling author John Gray, to be a wonderful suppiement to a healthy diet. For more information, go to http://www.marsvenusliving.com
From: MarsVenusLiving
Recipes for Life: Mars Venus Shake of the Month
The Mars Venus shakes are one of the easiest ways to establish healthy brain chemistry, which supports men and women in the demanding and high stress world of today. The shakes are specially formulated to create a specific and unique balance between essential proteins, carbohydrates, fats, amino acids and dense nutrients that men and women need each day. These decadent shakes are simple to make, and you will feel a remarkable difference immediately.
This month’s shake is a powerhouse of defense and cleansing. With its high antioxidant content and purifying qualities, seasonal colds and flu viruses won’t stand a chance.
Benefits of a few ingredients in this shake:
Extra virgin coconut oil is a healthy fat that cannot be stored in the body as fat, only burned as energy. It is high in lauric acid and is an anti-viral food source.
Aloe Vera juice contains healing minerals and anti-inflammatory compounds. It also boosts the production of white blood cells.
Brazil Nuts are high in selenium, a mineral that provides antioxidant protection, and can help fight against cancer and heart disease. Also, Brazil nuts promote a healthy thyroid and colon.
Acai is known as one of the most powerful anti-aging, antioxidant superfoods. Acai is packed full of antioxidants, amino acids and essential fatty acids.
Adja clarity minerals are magnetic sulfate minerals from Mt. Fuji that purify your water and body, and control the growth of Candida, a naturally occurring yeast in the body that can cause many chronic illnesses and maladies when allowed to proliferate unchecked.
Molasses is a robust natural sweetener, and an excellent source of essential trace minerals and iron.
Mint leaves soothe the digestive tract and slow the growth of harmful bacteria and fungi.
Chocolate Mint and Acai Powerhouse